Category Archives: Overly Sensitive

Paying Attention To Hecklers

  

After witnessing this several times on social media, I just had to get this off of my mind by writing about it. Above you will see a quick interaction between a celebrity (celebrated individual) and a fan (a person who likes the fantasy of entertainment)

The short debate between the two was the part that perturbed me, as I didn’t see to be necessary. I’m going to list my reason in the bullet point format.

1. The original comment is passionate but also impractical, as labels and classification is a necessity for organization. Plus the comment is illogical, as the term “stereotypes” is not in relation to the terms “labels and classifications”

Stereotypes are more of a presumptive notion towards a person, which is commonly negative.

Classification is an observed recognition of similarities, it’s not inherently negative or presumptuous.

Labels provide a way to organize and inform. Only recently have the digital dictionaries included the regressive definition of the term being “restrictive or inaccurate” which is also an example of a The Mandela Effect.

2. The person who pointed out the obvious contradiction of the original tweet was met with an insulting and judgmental response. The person (an assumed fan) was called “simple minded” by the celebrity. Just like in school the popular kids felt very validated when they put someone down in front of others.

I say, why? You already live your dream, and have the popularity and the money, so why do you feel the need to put down some one who likes you and follows you just because they saw the hypocrisy in what you said?

3. I’ve always wondered why some of these celebrities, who get many affirming tweets from fans that adore them, will only take time to acknowledge the people who disagree with them, or the people who disparage and lambast them. Then turn around and ignore the people who adore them.
Here is wisdom: The hecklers, and the admirers are driven by the same desire to get attention from you. It’s just that one wants to encourage and please, whereas the other want to agitate and offend you. 

So why lend your attention to the negative people (Hecklers) but ignore the positive (Adorers)

Intellectual Appropriation

A Factual Refutation

The term “ghetto” does not connote relation to black people. The term originated in Italy during the seventeenth century, and had nothing to do with skin color.

The term “ghetto” refers to an area segregated and usually impoverished monetarily. So for black people to take offense to the term is almost a way of disparaging oneself.
And braids are not exclusive to blacks.

Nordic men, women, and children have a history of various braids. Also Celtic culture, as well as Greek culture all have a rich history of braiding. This disqualifies it from being logically considered “appropriation”

I’m not sure if it’s self entitlement, arrogance, or just malevolence but people were bullying this woman for wearing braids and I don’t understand what their rationale is. If any at all. For a people that constantly claim to be the strongest spiritually and mentally, they sure do get offended quite easily.

The Fear of Reproval

I remember this.She blew it way out of proportion by using Airtime to address it. The man contacted her privately and addressed her in a respectful manner. Then she took so much offense to it that she labeled him a “bully” and wasted airtime to scrutinize him.

Read the full message that he sent her, he was not abrasive and he was not mocking her. In fact, he was very mature in his verbiage.
Personally I think it was unnecessary for him to say anything to her about her weight, and it was the boldness of it that struck her the hardest.

She is not obligated to provide an example for anyone. And she’s really not that big anyway, certainly not big enough to be at any “health risks”
I agree that he was out of line to try and place any responsibility on her for setting an example for others, but I disagree with her calling him a “bully” when he wasn’t. He did not cast aspersions on her in that message.

For her to compare being overweight to being Black is foolishness. No one is born overweight. You do work to get overweight, overtime. You make poor choices in your diet, and you eat to satisfy a craving, rather than to nourish the body. That’s a fact.

I empathize with her for feeling offended by his words, but they really weren’t offensive to begin with. What she should’ve done is addressed him privately, telling him that she is her own woman, and it is not her responsibility to be a role model for anyone but her own children, and that her weight, is her business.

If you’re smoking, and I say “Smoking corrodes your lungs. And over time it can lead to heart disease. You should really considered quitting.”
Does that sound like I’m putting you down? None of the man’s remarks were disparaging to her, she only perceived them to be offensive.

And despite what we are told, perception is NOT reality. What we think things are has no bearing on how they actually are.
Real bullying is abrupt and malicious. The intentional effort to hurt or humiliate someone.
He did not intend to hurt her, because he did not cast any aspersions. And he did not intend to humiliate her because what he warned her of (obesity) is a legitimate concern, and he approached her discretely.

It was she who decided to respond to him publicly, possibly in an effort to garner support. Are the hurtful, disrespectful, disparaging words that she spake about him count as “negative”? Or does spite make things acceptable?

As a person who was overweight for nearly 3/4 of my life so far, I know that for some people who are fat it’s not a struggle, it’s just lack of discipline.
I knew my choices were poor.

I knew that my portions were too much.

I knew I needed to get up and move around more.

But I didn’t want to, I wanted what I liked and what I had a craving for. I knew my plates were too full, but in my mind I wanted more than an average amount.

I used to say that it was a “struggle” for me, but in my heart I knew it only took action, will for me to get on the path to losing the pounds. So finally, after years of procrastinating, I said “I’m going to do it.” Then I started losing weight.

And then I went right back to eating whatever. So after getting on track, jumping off track, then getting back on track: I finally got on track and stayed on it.
I began portioning my meals

I began drinking more Spring water

I avoided sugars, greasy foods, and starch.

I began walking more and parking further away.
Most of all, I used a form of psychological alchemy, and changed my thought patterns. No longer thinking of what I’d “like” to have, encouraging the temptation.

You know how people say “I only did because someone said that I couldn’t”? Well I used that same mentality, except I was the one who said “I can’t!”

So I had to defy myself.

Inappropriate, that’s the word I was looking for! It was inappropriate for him to tell her that she’s responsible for the influence of little girls (which she is not) and it was equally as inappropriate for her to respond to him publicly on air, no less.

She claimed that his words had no affect on her, but if that were true then she wouldn’t have called them “hurtful” it’s possible that she may be sensitive about her size, which is the opposite of self esteem.

If your okay with being skinny, or okay with being fat, or okay with being chubby, or okay with being fit: then don’t let messages like that offend you. If you’re not okay with whatever you are, then be honest about it. Stop pretending to be confident if you aren’t actually confident.

If she’s living and breathing and is content with her state of health whatever it may be, then she needn’t place any consideration on the words of others. I won’t patronize her as a victim because he did not attack her verbally.

I remember being called names: that is hurtful. Imagine a someone refusing to go out with you because your heavier than they are: that is hurtful. Someone telling me “You’ve got to take care of yourself.” is not hurtful.

And when I was told that, I did take offense to it but now, after maturing and gaining humility: I see that it was immature of me to take offense where there was none given.

I was younger than she is when this happened, and I didn’t have a society of SJWs patronizers blow smoke for me. I had to develop true self confidence in knowing who I was on the inside. My spirit, my compassion, my humility, and my integrity.

A Perceptively Distorted Society  

Why do people ignore others whom they previously didn’t ignore? Ignore mean-spirited people is one thing, in fact it is quite an appropriate response. But to ignore people who haven’t disrespected you, who haven’t committed any offenses toward you: is unjust.

Most of my own personal experiences of being abruptly ignored, have come from Females. Coincidently, all of my personal experiences of being told that I was “Offensive” have been from Feminists.

I’ve come to understand that it is not uncommon for some people to take offense when there is none to be given. This comes from the misconception of “Perception is Reality”

“Perception is Reality” is false. The way you personally perceive things may be inaccurate to what the reality of they are. Your personal belief has no bearing on reality, no bearing on truth. This is why I rarely give my personal opinion, instead I give researchable facts.

For example: I once stated that “Joshua Alcorn was a young Male who personally identified himself as Female, and desired to live effeminately.” I never said that this was right or wrong, I never passed judgment on him, or his desire to identify as the opposite sex.

That statement offended many people on Social Media. I was called close-minded, judgmental, transphobic, and hateful.
I lost Facebook friends, had people arguing at me (not with me) all because I stated the facts.

Before stating those words I said that the situation was awful and that I wish the young man had not taken his own life. No offenses were spoken by me, yet many took offense to me referring to the Male as “him, or he”

The reality of that ordeal is that I spoke no ill towards that particular individual, yet others perceived my words to be negative although they were positive. I said that I wish he’d lived to facilitate the change he desired to see in society, he wanted others to accept him living as a female.

Ignoring people seems cowardice. If it’s a person whom you’ve had interaction with, why not just tell them “I do not wish to communicate any further” or “I don’t wanna talk to you”? Why ignore them and leave them thinking “did I do something wrong?” Everything is going well but suddenly the other party is silent.

This goes back to what I was saying about this Generation being Technically advanced, but socially many are recessing (verb)
And I quote: “The more the technology advances, the more communicatively-intertwined they became. Then the more conceded people became”

If you frequently interact Online you may have noticed that most people have become very sensitive. They will Block you for having a different perspective on life than they do. They will Block you for answering a Cynical question which they asked!
An offensive and presumptuous question was asked of me (of which I took offense to) and when I answered the question adding the words “does that count?”

The person who asked took offense, called me a insult, and then Blocked me. We had been communicating cordially for three months: never an argument, never a debate. Coincidently, she was a feminist from out of the country.

I always thought that I was too sensitive, but after interacting on Social Media for a few years I now understand that I am not as sensitive as I thought.